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A candid and hilarious conversation about what happens when sex doesn’t feel like it’s working.

This book is one woman’s funny, moving, and sometimes awkward quest to fix her sex life, but it’s the story of millions of women everywhere – half of all women have felt pain during sex.

During award-winning writer and performer Fran Bushe’s journey towards building a better relationship with her genitals, doctors advised her to have a glass of wine to loosen up, and male friends suggested she simply hadn’t ‘tried’ the right penis yet. Unsurprisingly, neither worked.

After a visit to Sex Camp and many attempts to fix her ‘broken’ vagina, Fran decided to share her own hilarious, excruciating, and sometimes upsetting experiences. With the help of her 16 year old self’s diary, expert advice, candid and enlightening interviews with others about sex, and some self-care exercises, Fran sets about trying to make herself, and other people, feel like they’re not being gaslit by their own vaginas.

(P) 2021 Hodder & Stoughton Ltd

Reviews

Hilarious, poignant and important. I utterly love this book.
Lucy-Anne Holmes
Insightful, bold, very funny and much-needed. This book could change lives
Rachel Parris
Hilarious, comforting, and warm. This book is important, and I'm sure will open up a lot of conversations that we should be having all the time.
Grace Campbell
Joyously funny, honest and kind. If you have a vagina and a sense of humour, it's for you. If you've ever found yourself falling short of the mainstream media version of handsfree, missionary, simultaneously orgasmic encounters, it's for you. And if you have a 16 year old in your life, it's probably the most realistic chat about the way it can be that they or their friends will get
Sarah Chadwick, author of The Sweetness of Venus
Fran's book is so refreshing in a world where too many people with broken vaginas are still expected to just put up with it. It's frank, moving, funny, warm and inclusive, like the best mate you never knew your vagina needed. I'm sure it will make a huge difference to lots of women and others affected by painful sex - and hopefully their doctors too!
Sarah Graham, Founder of Hysterical Women