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All the Things They Said We Couldn't Have

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19th January 2023

Price: £12.99

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Selected: Paperback / ISBN-13: 9781839971495

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‘Transition has not been something linear for me, my joy has come in seasons.’

Now, more than ever, trans people deserve to hear stories of joy and hope, where being trans doesn’t have to be defined by fear and dysphoria, but can be experienced through courage, freedom, and the love and acceptance of their chosen families.

Through a series of uplifting, generous and beautifully crafted vignettes, T. C. Oakes-Monger gently leads you through the cycle of the seasons – beginning in Autumn and the shedding of leaves and identity, moving through the darkness of Winter, its cold days, and the reality of daily life, into Spring, newness, and change, and ending with the joy of long Summer days and being out and proud – and invites you to find similar moments of joy in your life.

Celebratory and empowering, these stories are a reminder of the power joy can bring.

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Charlie Craggs, author of To My Trans Sisters
What we desperately need and deserve - more trans joy
Ben Pechey, author of The Book of Non-Binary Joy
To feel valid and seen in this world is a huge thing - one that many in the trans community never receive - but this book does that for so many people. Tash Oakes-Monger has beautifully weaved their lived experience throughout this book, combining it with a poignant reminder to look for joy, creating something everyone can read and benefit from.
Fox Fisher, Artist, Author & Film-maker
From surviving, to thriving, this uplifting gem of a book shares powerful stories detailing childhood clues and trans joy. Every trans experience is different and yet there is still a thread we can connect with in every individual story. Powerful, Insightful and Captivating.
Juno Roche, author of Trans Power and Queer Sex
A beautiful set of interpretations of who we are and what we are capable of becoming. A must read.
DIVA Magazine
A beautiful memoir about the power and magic of trans joy