You Are Not the Problem
On sale
18th June 2026
Price: £14.99
Genre
I want you to remember you are not the problem.
ADHD in women is still widely misunderstood which often makes navigating the world as an ADHD woman exhausting and filled with shame. Why do I find things so challenging that other women do with ease? Why can’t I get anywhere on time?
Drawing on her professional experience within the ADHD community as well as her work with late-diagnosed ADHD women, Liz Lewis is here to put these anxieties to rest. She reveals the hidden costs of masking and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, navigating relationships and motherhood, and the impossible “Triple Bind” that demands women excel in all domains while appearing effortlessly perfect.
Using stories, science, cultural analysis and humour to examine the influence of ADHD, this book can help you question the beliefs and expectations that have hindered you and encourage you reclaim space. This isn’t a manual for “fixing” yourself – it’s a roadmap for understanding your neurological differences with compassion.
ADHD in women is still widely misunderstood which often makes navigating the world as an ADHD woman exhausting and filled with shame. Why do I find things so challenging that other women do with ease? Why can’t I get anywhere on time?
Drawing on her professional experience within the ADHD community as well as her work with late-diagnosed ADHD women, Liz Lewis is here to put these anxieties to rest. She reveals the hidden costs of masking and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria, navigating relationships and motherhood, and the impossible “Triple Bind” that demands women excel in all domains while appearing effortlessly perfect.
Using stories, science, cultural analysis and humour to examine the influence of ADHD, this book can help you question the beliefs and expectations that have hindered you and encourage you reclaim space. This isn’t a manual for “fixing” yourself – it’s a roadmap for understanding your neurological differences with compassion.
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Reviews
This book says what ADHD women have felt but were never allowed to name. Liz Lewis is fearless, honest, and deeply validating, challenging outdated narratives while offering compassion without sugarcoating. A necessary read.
I loved this book and am happy to recommend it. Liz writes like she's your wise, informed best friend. She engagingly and honestly describes the challenges women with ADHD have in every stage of life. If you're looking for a book easy on the eyes and food for your soul, this is it.
The male-centered lens of ADHD has needed to be expanded for decades. In "You Are Not The Problem", Liz Lewis does just that. She explores what it is like to grow up as a woman with ADHD from both a personal and expert perspective, discussing such topics as the reasons for, and impact of, late diagnosis in women, ADHD and the feminine ideal, ADHD's effect on relationships (both romantic and platonic), even hormones and perimenopause. And as proof of Liz's expertise, it's an ADHD-friendly read. If you are a woman with late diagnosed ADHD, or love someone who is, buy this book!
After years of struggling to meet expectations and feeling invisible, women diagnosed with ADHD as adults will finally feel seen and understood. Liz Lewis' must-read book is like a conversation over coffee with a knowledgeable friend, offering compassion, depth and humor.
Liz Lewis writes with honesty and depth. This book dismantles stigma, explains the lived complexity of ADHD in women, and provides a language that empowers rather than blames. A validating, insightful companion for anyone navigating late diagnosis.
You are Not the problem is an imminently readable must-have for the libraries of women with ADHD everywhere. It is a refreshing, real take on absolutely everything ADHD-in-women. Lewis' wit, humor, and ability to make research actually interesting are unparalleled. Combining funny and touching stories with a strong evidence base, this book accurately conveys essential aspects of ADHD for women that others simply don't. Liz gets to the heart of the matter, and makes you laugh along the way, like only she can. You Are Not the Problem should become a staple read in no time!
Liz Lewis' You Are Not the Problem delves into topics that no-one else talks about with humor, honesty, and grace! Blending current science with the practicalities of lived experience, she thoroughly identifies every key aspect of life for women with ADHD -- in the most user-friendly way!
Smart, succinct, and incredibly useful, "You are not the Problem" will shake up your thinking in the best way. Liz's incredible book makes women with ADHD feel seen, heard, and valued.
A must read for every ADHD woman! It was like reading a dear, knowledgeable friend's experiences, wisdom and understanding of being an ADHD woman, through the life cycle. I learned so much and left with a reframe for myself to strive towards self-acceptance.