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The Brink of Being

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2nd May 2019

Price: £18.99

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Selected: Hardcover / ISBN-13: 9780349010762

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‘A much needed book on this difficult and often unspoken loss, that of early pregnancy … both illuminating and consoling.’ Julia Samuel, author of Grief Works

It estimated that one in four pregnancies end in miscarriage and yet it persists as taboo. In The Brink of Being, a groundbreaking and essential book, psychotherapist Julia Bueno encourages us to talk about, think more, and reflect upon this often misunderstood, and little discussed event.

Drawing on her personal experience of miscarriage, stories from her consulting room, and interviews with medical professionals and researchers, Bueno provides history, context and consolation for anyone who has been through pregnancy loss, or wants to know how to help someone who has.

Bueno also investigates miscarriage in terms of how we respond to women’s bodies and reproductive health, our attitudes to birth and death, and how we can – and should – encourage more curiosity and candid conversations, in order to better support the many affected by this loss.

‘Intelligent, sensitive, and utterly candid … It’s the sort of book that women have long been searching for, and it feels like real progress. I’m so thankful she wrote it’ Meaghan O’Connell, author of And Now We Have Everything

Reviews

Katy Lindemann, Observer
Bueno's choice of language is considered and thoughtful, unpacking difficult issues that are so often avoided for fear of causing distress. She writes with sensitivity and compassion, filling a muchneeded void in discussion around the subject, and opening the door to more candid conversations
Keith Stuart, author of The Boy Made of Blocks
Beautifully written and thoroughly researched, The Brink of Being is vital reading, both for those who have experienced miscarriage and for the people who want to support them. I think a lot of people are going to be stronger for reading this
Zoe Williams
This is a book of profound insight, rare courage and calm, searching compassion. It made me reflect, not just on miscarriage, but on the solace of the intellect, and the euphoric rush of a broken silence
Julia Samuel, author of Grief Works
A much needed book on this difficult and often unspoken loss, that of early pregnancy. Julia Bueno talks powerfully from her personal experience as well as professionally which is both illuminating and consoling
Julia Leigh, author of Avalanche
A thoughtful work that identifies and honours an important passage of life for a great many women
Caroline Leavitt, New York Times bestselling author of Pictures of You and Is this Tomorrow
Wise and compassionate, Bueno is the friend (and expert) you want when you or a loved one suffers miscarriage. This is a profound game-changer of a book that can not only support women, but can help reshape a society that often ignores or sweeps women's issues under that proverbial rug
Sathnam Sanghera
Julia is one of the most intuitive and compassionate and curious psychotherapists around, and in her approach to miscarriage all of these qualities are shown
Julia Samuel, author of Grief Works
A much needed book on this difficult and often unspoken loss, that of early pregnancy. Julia Bueno talks powerfully from her personal experience as well as professionally which is both illuminating and consoling
Meaghan O'Connell, author of And Now We Have Everything
An intelligent, sensitive, and utterly candid book about miscarriage. Thanks to Bueno's radical empathy and openness, the reader comes away more consoled than heartbroken, and more curious than afraid. It's the sort of book that women have long been searching for, and it feels like real progress. I'm so thankful she wrote it
Observer
Bueno's choice of language is considered and thoughtful, unpacking difficult issues that are so often avoided for fear of causing distress. She writes with sensitivity and compassion?, filling a much-needed void in discussion around the subject, and opening the door to more candid conversations
Michele Pridmore-Brown, Times Literary Supplement
The book is most viscerally a memoir of Bueno's own first pregnancy and miscarriage . . . She argues for institutionally sanctioned rituals of mourning. But more work needs to be done to find language and practices that heal rather than harm . . . Part of Julia Bueno's point, too: there is no right or uniform way of responding to miscarriage