The Motherhood Complex

THE MOTHERHOOD COMPLEX does for mothers in particular what INVISIBLE WOMEN did for women as a whole: exposes the myriad ways in which the system is stacked against us, while celebrating the strengths and successes we achieve in spite of it all. A meticulously researched investigation, and a movingly intimate memoir

A wonderful, compassionate, honest and scientific book. A must-read for mothers - and fathers too

Thank you Melissa Hogenboom for telling it like it is! Blending case studies with scientific findings, mums can now understand and appreciate their changing identity and use best practices as they journey through parenthood. A must-read from a superb and insightful writer and mum

An upbeat, authoritative tirade on the contradiction between what we think motherhood is supposed to be like and what it is really like ... Hogenboom unfurls a proper anatomy of motherhood, delving into the physical and emotional changes ... This book is reassuring, warm and subtly challenging

[Melissa is] a really exciting thinker who has that wonderful ability to take lots of bits of information ... and then clarify in a way that makes it open and digestible

A welcome, refreshing and clear-eyed look at the twenty-first century expectations of motherhood and what they can do to twenty-first century mothers. From the biological consequences, such as the self-fulfilling prophecies of a belief in the 'mummy' brain, to the political and legal consequences of the 'pregnant then screwed' type (all played out on the stage of social media), this book catalogues how the demands of parenting can damage women who become mothers. Women feel like less, so they have to do more! But it also offers uplifting insights into the more relaxed alternatives seen in other cultures. This is a wake-up call to encourage more positive ways of thinking about women-as-mothers, both to the parents themselves, to enjoy what they are doing, and to the society to which they are contributing, to value this contribution

Brilliant. Beautifully written and rigorously researched. A much-needed evidence-based voice in a world of so much taboo and sexist nonsense

THE MOTHERHOOD COMPLEX offers a fascinating and deeply engrossing portrait of identity change after one of life's biggest events. Along the way, Melissa Hogenboom debunks many parenting myths, and dissects the paradoxical demands placed on mothers at home and in the workplace. THE MOTHERHOOD COMPLEX shows that we need more open and honest conversations about our society's expectations of mothers. Anyone who cares about gender equality should read this book